Hi! I'm Adelina. I received my Bachelor's in Psychology from the University of North Carolina Wilmington. In 2021, I began training as a Sex & Intimacy Consultant via the Sexual Health Alliance and pursuing a certification as a Sex Educator through the American Association for Sex Educators, Councilors & Therapists (AASECT). Apart from that, I am also a long-time devoted practitioner of Sacred Sexuality. Most of all, though,
I'm a proud sexual being. But, it wasn't always this way.
The relationship I’ve cultivated with my sexuality over the past several years has been both the most healing and liberating I’ve ever had the pleasure of experiencing in my life.
As a queer woman of color, I grew up in a conservative environment that didn’t necessarily receive my ideas on sexuality and identity with open arms. Not just my family, but also my peers, frowned upon my, at the time unorthodox, ideas about sex and relationships.
Meet Addy
(She/They)
At the age of 19, I began examining the ideas I'd been raised with about my body, my role as a woman, and my sexuality. I entertained "radical" notions such as: as long as it was alright with all parties involved and practiced safely, sex was a perfectly fine way to engage with one another and didn’t always have to be tied to romantic connotations. Still, it would take me a while to shake away the influence of the Performance Models of sexuality and learn to honor my pleasure.
I was also what I now am able to recognize and articulate as nonmonogamous, polyamorous, and pansexual. I often share the stories of my early make-believe games involving me dating all of the Power Rangers at once (it was all very Kitchen Table). However, without any representation, it would take me years of struggle and suppression before I finally was able to come out and claim these identities as my own.
One of my first consensual sexual experiences was with a dear friend and kinkster. This would be my introduction to the Kink/BDSM lifestyle. Eventually, I would apprentice as a professional dominatrix and help guide people through their fantasies, one thud of the flogger at a time!
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Before that, I would become a different kind of Sex Worker -- a dancer and cam girl, and add my voice to the many who champion for visibility, representation, and justice for yet another marginalized, misunderstood, and oft misrepresented community. I launched my first project, The Naked Booth, in hopes of shedding light on the adult industry and help remove the stigma that so many of my colleagues continue to face.
I’m a survivor. I’m an advocate. And, most of all, I’m someone who understands the importance of education and visibility when it comes to the subject of sex. The work I did deconstructing societal views on sex and re-examining sexuality both as a whole as well as for myself has brought me to a place of immeasurable peace, acceptance and empowerment.
Sex in our society is mistreated and misappropriated. It is flaunted by media to market goods while being simultaneously “icked” and pushed to the shadows, out of our schools and homes. When we do find it discussed openly, the conversation becomes sterile and medicalized, where it feels safe. Meanwhile, in too many medical practices, sexual topics outside of those dealing with reproduction are handled poorly, if at all.
When it comes to common discussion, we have pinned pleasure as pornographic and inappropriate. Meanwhile, people walk around clueless about their bodies or the bodies of others, feeling broken, isolated, and unsatisfied because they’re working with shoddy models, barely any knowledge, and few reliable sources from which to obtain it!
This occlusion and denial has only served to muddy the waters of progress and caused significant harm to our overall wellbeing. If we are to make any improvement within our society, we must do the work to remove the shame surrounding the conversation of sex and pleasure. We must hold up a lens to examine it in all its complexity and marvel. Then, do our best to spread that light of awareness for the benefit of all.
Growing up, I had to do the work myself to build these concepts, detangle myself from the voices of shame, and not only connect with, but joyfully embrace and share my sexuality with the world.
I became a Sex & Intimacy Coach and Educator because I want to help people experience the sense of serenity, safety and freedom that comes from owning their sexuality and nurturing a relationship with their bodies, as well as their desires, from a place of comfort, acceptance, and authenticity.
I want to help build a sex-positive, pleasure-empowered present full of beautifully diverse genders, sexualities, and relationship styles. I want people to be able to make informed decisions about their bodies and their lifestyles. I want Sex Workers to be valued and cared about without descrimination. I want people to feel seen, to be able to know and love themselves. I want people to have fun, be safe, be sexy, and be free.